In the spring of 1822 an employee in one of the world’s first offices – that of the East India Company in London – sat down to write a letter to a friend. If the man was excited to be working in a building that was revolutionary, or thrilled to be part of a novel institution which would transform the world in the centuries that followed, he showed little sign of it. “You don’t know how wearisome it is”, wrote Charles Lamb, “to breathe the air of four pent walls, without relief, day after day, all the golden hours of the day between ten and four.” His letter grew ever-less enthusiastic, as he wished for “a few years between the grave and the desk”. No matter, he concluded, “they are the same.”
Yes, we’re also feeling anticipatory grief. Anticipatory grief is that feeling we get about what the future holds when we’re uncertain. Usually it centers on death. We feel it when someone gets a dire diagnosis or when we have the normal thought that we’ll lose a parent someday. Anticipatory grief is also more broadly imagined futures. There is a storm coming. There’s something bad out there. With a virus, this kind of grief is so confusing for people. Our primitive mind knows something bad is happening, but you can’t see it. This breaks our sense of safety. We’re feeling that loss of safety.
guide on how to cope with climate distress (PDF).
For a long time, I have struggled to articulate what kind of programmer I am. I’ve been writing code for most of my life, never with any real discipline, but/and I can, at this point, make the things happen on computers that I want to make happen. At the same time, I would not last a day as a professional software engineer. Leave me in charge of a critical database and you will return to a smoldering crater.
Making this app, I figured it out:
I am the programming equivalent of a home cook.
The connection between food and mourning runs deep: In almost every culture or tradition, a community brings dishes to the survivors in the weeks or months after a death. But for a spouse, accustomed to sharing every meal with a partner, the grieving can go on long afterward, renewed constantly by the rhythms of shopping, cooking and eating.
Public speaking is tough.
Be it at a conference, or during a company meeting, or in your car trying to persuade the cop not to ticket you for going three times the speed limit while streaming an episode of The Maury Povich Show on your iPad, talking in front of other people can be an intimidating experience.
That Saturday morning in 1991, Pennefather drove her Mazda 323 to the Monastery of the Poor Clares in Alexandria, Virginia. She loved to drive. Fifteen cloistered nuns waited for her in two lines, their smiles radiant.
She turned to her family.
"I love you all," she said.
The door closed, and Shelly Pennefather was gone.
These are my links for September 5th through September 18th:
- Tun Abdul Razak Research Centre – The Tun Abdul Razak Research Centre, founded in 1938, is the UK-based research and promotion centre of the Malaysian Rubber Board, whose mission is to enhance the competitiveness and viability of the Malaysian rubber industries in the global environment through focused R&D, effective transfer of technology and quality support services
tags: malaysia research rubber
- PocketMags | Digital Magazines for iPad, iPhone, Android, PC and Mac –
tags: reading DigitalMagazines Magazine Magazines
- Computer leads to Humans failing Turing Test | Robinince’s Blog – The instant availability of information, as well as instant access to individuals, does come with some minor costs. When information is printed in a book, one imagines that there has been rigorous work done to ensure that it is true or that at least there is enough evidence to argue its truth, though this may not always be the case. To publish on the internet, as my blog clearly demonstrates, sometimes only haste and intent is required.
tags: TuringTest humanity internet socialmedia interesting empathy
- Memories Look At Me | Love | 56th BFI London Film Festival – A young woman (played by director Song Fang) visits her ageing parents in Nanjing and reflects for the first time on what it means to grow old.
tags: BFI LFF LondonFilmFestival
- Teddy Bear | Love | 56th BFI London Film Festival – A painfully shy bodybuilder looks for love far from his mother’s watchful eye.
tags: BFI LFF LondonFilmFestival
These are my links for June 3rd through June 7th:
- observe, tiny fish, How Do You Save Someone Who Doesn’t Want To Be… –
tags: thor loki fanmix
- observe, tiny fish, how close am i to losing you? (X) thor/loki fanmix… –
tags: thor loki fanmix
- Using Real Psychology in Your Writing –
tags: psychology reference research useful writing
- I have so many feels –
tags: feels richardarmitage gifs
- Superheroes movies like Avengers Assemble should not be scorned | Film | The Guardian –
tags: comics superheroes interesting tomhiddleston mythology
These are my links for April 9th through April 17th:
- Andreas Capellanus, De amore: Excerpts; (Latin, tr. into Modern English) A Treatise on Courtly Love. –
tags: courtlylove 12thcentury robinhood
- Word Count Meter – for NaNoWriMo participants and writers! –
tags: tools useful writing
- Online Timer –
tags: writing timer clock countdown
- Mennonite World Conference — GAMEO – Ron Sider's complete presentation on 28 July 1984 at Mennonite World Conference in Strasbourg, France. The title was "God's People Reconciling," based on 1 Peter 3:8-12. This is a large (15 Manitoba, Canada) mp3 file containing the full 35 minute presentation. Click on the title to download in MP3. CAUTION: This may take a long time if you do not have good broadband connections.
tags: RonSider mennonite shalom reconciliation
- Xfm Buzz – A Radio Hack | Blog – Gareth53.co.uk – At Global Towers we developers have 10% time to go away and hack at something that might, ultimately, bring value to the business. So that means Friday afternoons is hack time. One of my personal hack projects has come to an end and I wanted to record it for posterity before it disappears – how it behaves, what it does, the thought process behind it and why I thought it was a valuable exercise.
tags: xfm interactivity interactive twitter statistics music interesting radio